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October 28, 2008

Not to oversimplify….

Filed under: Mental Health — kelliealexander @ 10:19 am

I, like most people, have always heard that happiness is a choice. For a person like myself, this is usually a galling thing to hear, and not at all welcome to my ears. I think I tend to want others to make me happy and don’t really want the responsibility of taking things in hand. But, when tragedy strikes, I realize more than ever what an important reality that is. That I can — in the midst of all that I go through — experience life and happiness and even joy and peace depending on where I allow my mind to dwell.

This is so real to me because I personally have such a propensity to focus on the negative things in the world. It’s just where my mind naturally wanders if I let it go unchecked. But, I have noticed that allowing my mind total free reign to dwell on things that are unsavory, I can very quickly find myself in a dark and despairing place. And, that is NOT where I want to remain!

Let’s face it, as a part of the healing process, we must at times visit the dark places in our hearts for a season. If we allow the Lord to be present with us in that place, the time spent will be worthwhile and will have a distinct beginning and an end. We will go down into the valley, so to speak, and we will absolutely walk right back up out of it when the time is right. After all, valleys are very fertile places. But, they also do not get much light. So, for the believer to venture into them is almost certain. But, to stay in them, not only is unnecessary, but it can actually stunt our growth and cause us more trouble. Also, Scripture seems replete with warnings about dwelling too long in the dark corners of our minds.

The Bible says this:

“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4 NASB

I take this to mean that we will absolutely experience dark places in our lives. However, we are also instructed throughout Scripture to keep our focus on the Lord and not on our circumstances or our feelings.

Isa 26:3 Thou wilt keep [him] in perfect peace, [whose] mind [is] stayed [on thee]: because he trusteth in thee.

Phl 2:5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:

1Pe 1:13 Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ;

Phl 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things.

Phl 4:9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me-put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

These are wonderful, life-giving words written to us by our Father Who loves us more deeply than we can possibly imagine. In them, I get strength and direction, and hope for a new day that is to come!

God Bless You!


written October 28, 2008


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